Saturday, February 28, 2009

Well today was THE big day.....ugh. Fortunately it went ok. Paul and I met with B's dad for lunch to do our "discussions". He seemed very receptive to my comments, concerns and suggestions....thankfully. We agreed on most or all of the things I implemented and set forth. Hes going to start to call B and set up nights where they can just sit and talk. Then when B is comfortable we'll invite him down to the house so they can hang here.....we'll have several supervised visits before I let him take B for a few hours away from the house....we're basically going to let B coach us through this on how comfortable he feels with everything that is happening. The one thing I truly didnt think he'd agree to, was B calling him by his first name rather than dad.....Paul is daddy and I didnt want it to confuse him. B's dad whole-heartedly (or pretended very well, lol) agreed that it was ok to do that and that he supported us in all that. So the ground work is layed out - I guess we'll wait and see how it all goes. My hopes are that he has grown up enough over the last 10 years since he last saw B and can realize and accept the responsibilities of being a parent, something he has nothing to do with for the last 10 or so years. Paul and I forsee him being a "friend" to B, rather than a parent. I fully believe that while he is 34 years old, hes more 18 in the head....he'll come across to B as a buddy, not a father. But we'll see - I could be wrong and this would be one of those times where Id love to be wrong!! Normally I despise being wrong, lol....however, this would be one of those times where Id be ok being wrong, teehee. :)

So all in all, my stomach was in knots and the butterflies had krept into my throat and still I handled myself well I think. Paul agreed that it went well for what it was.....but, Ill wait to see how it goes, the ball is basically in his court now.

So theres the update! If you've read this far, lol - thanks!! :)

The Nye5

Friday, February 27, 2009

Aaaah TGIF!! :) And a busy day at that!!

Paul went to a computer auction - that aside from finding some possible cars for my sister, was a bust. Later today my sissy and the kids came over to hang out and eat pizza. :) Helped a ton with the frazzled nerves I'm having for tomorrows little "meet-up" with Brennan's real dad. A little background on him; we had dated since I was 15 all the way through High School. After high school we moved into a house together. In July of 1995 he proposed to me and happily accepted. In February of 1996 I became unexpectedly pregnant.....while Brennan's dad was not thrilled in the beginning, he eventually accepted the inevitable. However, by August of that same year, he decided he was neither interested in having a child and no longer did he love me. After that I moved home with my mother where I knew I was safe to birth and raise my son for however long I needed. The first 2 years of Brennan's life we talked, even entertained the possibilities of getting back together. That, however, was not something either of us ended up pursuing (thankfully, lol). He saw Brennan a handful of times, then disappeared.....shortly after I would meet my wonderful husband and we wouldn't hear anything from B's dad throughout the years, minus the strange phone call I received on Thanksgiving 2002 where he seemed as though he was more interested in finding out if I was happily married etc (a conversation I felt as though we were having strictly for the sake of finding out if he could get back together with me - UMM NO and how about NEVER! HA!). He spoked to me briefly then talked to B for 20 minutes. During which he promised B he would come see him at Christmas, that they would get to spend time together. Brennan got off the phone - he was elated. He was super excited that he was going to get to see his father....even though he knew Paul was his daddy...we've always told him about Lonnie knowing one day he would have questions and that we would be here to answer any and all of them when he was ready. Needless to say, B's dad never called again - EVER. And Brennan stopped asking about him from there on out....and Paul and I picked up the pieces of his broken heart.....

Fast forward to today, I had to contact him 3 weeks ago regarding a tax issue. He expressed that he "might" want to start talking to B again, could he have B's cell # - yada yada. Well, I was floored, for a lack of another descriptive word. I got off the phone with him and talked to Paul about how we should handle this. After many hours of conversations and some damn good advice from my daddy, we decided that we would give him one last chance to be a father, just so long as that meant B was happy and that there was ZERO chance he would get hurt again. So, that being the case, tomorrow we are meeting B's dad for lunch at a neutral location so we can go over the terms that Paul and I plan to set forth for any future relations that he may want to have with B. I know this is going to be a long road.....and man have I been praying for strength, wisdom and a kind tongue for tomorrow!! Wow....Im super nervous, I don't know how this is going to go - but Ive decided and plan to stick to my guns, this is going to be on OUR terms or no way at all. I will not be the one to have to look into those hazel eyes of Brennans and see the hurt that his father put him through last time he came and intentions are for B and B only.

So, as you say your nightly prayers tonight - please ask for wisdom, guidance and strength for both Paul and I. Tomorrow is going to be a trying day for the both of us....I suspect things will go well - but I also don't know how long B's father will continue to stay around and the thought of another let down for Brennan makes my stomach turn and my heart ache. So lets all pray that things go smoothly tomorrow, and that sometime in the near future B can get to know his genetic father!

Ill try to update tomorrow as soon as I calm my nerves after the fact, lol.......thanks all and Happy RUSSELL DAY!! hehehehe

The Nye5

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Thoughtful Thursdays - what I did!!

Ok....for months on a daily basis (many days several times throughout the day) I follow the blog of KayleighAnn Freeman (click the button to your right for more info - be warned, Kayleigh will wiggle her way into your heart REAL fast!) in fact, they are the reason I decided to start the Nye 5 blog. :) Thanks Freemans!! At any rate, their new thing is thoughtful that button to your right too and get the scoop - I expect all my followers to participate!! And here is MY story for Thoughtful Thursday event;

Today was not an unusual day for the Nye 5; we got the 2 older boys off to school with no problems and had made arrangements to drive up North to meet a customer for a computer part. We drove up and met the customer and turned around to head back home. On the drive home I realized we were getting low on gas, so I stopped at a local gas station right off the freeway. While I was in line waiting to pay for my gas, a woman with 3 small children was checking out with her items. Her items intailed a couple of small juices and it appeared to be a muffin for each of her children, from what I could gather she wasn't purchasing anything for herself. As I stood there patiently waiting my turn as she fumbled through her purse trying to make enough change to pay for her items, the people behind me were visibly getting agitated and making loud sighs of discontent. I could see this woman was both getting embarrassed and flustered by all the sighs.....and I could also see that she probably didn't have enough money to pay for her kids' special treats. She was turning red in the face and started to explain to her children that they needed to put their treats back.......while we aren't financially stable right now like most of America - I reached into my purse and tapped the lady on her shoulder and gave her the last 3 dollars I had in my wallet - just enough to complete her transaction with the change she had managed to put together already laying on the counter. She looked at me and down at the money in her hand, then back up at me and I could see her eyes starting to well up with tears. Im a cry-er by nature, so I quickly put my hand on hers and said, "You have been touched by an angel, and her name is Kayleigh". She thanked me multiple times and waited for me outside the store, so after I paid for my gas and had my husband start pumping the gas, I explained to her who Kayleigh was and encouraged her to sit down with a box of tissues, a warm blanket and her laptop to read all about little Ms. Kayleigh......

What a good feeling! I know we're not always supposed to "pay" something for Thoughtful Thursdays - but it just happened so quickly and it felt so RIGHT! I was sooooooooooo proud of myself for having thought to do that! Normally I do what I can when I if I had it I would have done it anyways, but I had the chance today to do it in Kayleighs name!!

So theres my Thoughtful Thursday event for the week.....lets see if any of ya'll can do something like that next week!

Happy Thursdays all and its nearly TGIF!! :)

The Nye 5

First Nye post - YAY!

Well hello blog land!! Welcome to the first ever Nye 5 blog! I've seen friends and other family members blogging, but never thought there would be a need for me/us to blog our lives into the internet world....but - here we are!!

Let me introduce my family, A.K.A the Nye 5!! My name is Katrina and I am married to my best friend and soul mate, Paul. Together we have 3 WONDERFUL boys; Brennan (12), Jeffrey (5) and Mason (20 mths). We own and operate our own computer building business.....unfortunately, with the failing economy we are making a transition back into the workforce, albeit, the same field - but a small change for us nonetheless.......lets see, what else? We don't have much free time (HA! Who does these days?), but what time I do find I might have, I spend volunteering at my sons' schools doing whatever needs done in their classrooms, we go up to our lake property every opportunity we get and pretty well try to live each day at a time and take what's handed to us!!

I am hoping to find time often to update and/or post about our happenings feel free to check back often! Once I figure out how to use this thing I'll change things up a bit.....soon there will be some photos and other added goodies. :) Have a good day!!

The Nye 5